do.you.validate.

I battled with this for many years. My experience was I felt that because others had experienced worse my feelings of tiredness, stress and/or discomfort were invalid. Even as a mother of one I would often look at a mother of multiple children and think my feelings of exhaustion or being overwhelmed were invalid and felt I didn’t have the right to validate my experience of motherhood. I was being unfair and unkind to myself to allow another woman’s experience to validate my experience in life. I often did this as a child growing up comparing my life stories to others especially with my mom, that was weird. And if I viewed other’s stories as more traumatic than mine I’d immediately see my traumatic experiences as not so traumatic because other people had it worse and I didn’t have the right to feel hurt or pain from my experiences. (*deepbreathe) That was emotional abuse from a part of me that was not emotionally intelligent. These days I’ve accepted my enrollment in the School of Life in this Universe/University. I am learning how to properly handle my emotions and feelings for Self validation and approval. It is not an easy task and I have not passed every assignment but I am learning and have grown. And for that I am thankful.

#Self #Validation #Trauma #Healing